Dating expert who has been on over 200 dates reveals the four reasons you’re still single: Here’s how to find your match
- Anna Kai is a dating and romantic relationships expert
- She revealed four reasons people don’t find love
A woman who has been on more than 200 first dates before finally finding the perfect man has revealed why many fail to find love.
Anna Kai, a dating expert, always found falling in love and having meaningful relationships extremely difficult.
However, after going on hundreds of first dates in her 20s, she has finally revealed the main things holding people back when it comes to finding a life partner.
She cited not putting yourself out there enough, waiting for the right person to come along, and wasting time on the wrong people as major reasons many have unsuccessful dating lives.
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Anna Kai, a dating expert, always found falling in love and having meaningful relationships extremely difficult
1. You haven’t met enough people
‘You’re not single because there are no good men, it’s because you haven’t met enough men,’ Anna explained.
‘Some of us are lucky enough to find the right guy in the first few tries, but others like myself need to go on about 200 first dates in order to find our husband.’
Anna said she never gave up because she knew that every wrong date led her closer to ‘the one that mattered the most’.
2. You’re prioritising everything except dating
‘The movies have told you the right man will just fall into your lap, but he can’t find you if you never leave your house,’ Anna said.
‘Sure, timing is important, but you have to put yourself in the position to meet the right guy at the right time.’
The dating expert considers the two most important decisions you’ll make in your life to be what to do and who you decide to do it with.
‘If your goal in life is to find a life partner, you need to start looking at dating as another career and not second best to your actual career.’
She added: ‘The things we prioritise end up prioritising us.’
3. You’re wasting time holding on to the past
Anna explained that too many people she knew held out hope for someone who was almost perfect but did not want to commit.
‘You think if you just give him enough time to find himself he will eventually find a way to commit to you because you’ve invested so much time and it would be a waste to let it go,’ she said.
But that phenomenon is simply the sunk cost fallacy at work because the more time you sink into the wrong relationship, the less time you’ll have to find the right one.
4. You fear rejection
Anna revealed that one of the top reasons most people are still single is because deep down they want a partner, but don’t believe they deserve the one they want.
‘There’s nothing like the fear of getting rejected by who and what you want that keeps you from going after your dreams,’ she said.
‘It might feel safer for your ego to not get what you want because you’ve convinced yourself you don’t want it than to get rejected by someone you fought for.’
The dating expert concluded: ‘But remember the things worth having in life are the things worth fighting for, so fight like your life depends on it – because, you know what, it does.’
A woman who has been on over 200 first dates before finally finding the perfect man has revealed why many have failed to find love
Thousands thanked Anna for helping them with their dating lives.
‘I am all too familiar with all these reasons and I hate it,’ a woman said.
‘This is refreshingly practical advice – thank you,’ another said.
‘I do need to get out of my house more, even my grandmother tells me to go out and meet new people,’ a woman wrote.
‘I’m descending into introspection and wondering if my ego is the problem,’ another added.